Bumps in the Road

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Today I’m going to jump to the end of my book, Say It Out Loud, and share some thoughts on what I call bumps in the road. PART IV: Life What happens once the scars have been revealed and healed? Life.  The process of healing from any trauma is long and difficult, but eventually the


The Benefits of Journaling: An Excerpt from Say It Out Loud

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In my last post I shared how I chose the title, Say It Out Loud. Today I’ll go deeper into the book discussing the concept of using strategies for healing. The word strategy commonly refers to military operations. How can a strategy aid in a healing journey? Healing is what we want to achieve. The pain,


Sharing Your Journey

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I’m reading an excellent book right now, Praying for Strangers by River Jordan. It is the true story of a woman who’s two sons were going off to war. As a means of coping with her own fears she made a New Year’s resolution to pray for a complete stranger every day of the year. The book


Joy in the Midst of Sadness

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The holiday season is here. Everywhere you turn there are decorations, beautiful lights, Christmas music, and poinsettias. The scent of pine, cinnamon, and freshly baked cookies fill the air. It’s the one time of year that people greet strangers saying “Happy Holidays” or “Merry Christmas.” It’s a time to feel joyful, and many of us


Editors, Writing Coaches and Annie

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Today is Annie day. It’s become my favorite day of the week. Every Wednesday at 12:30 I have a phone conference with Annie, an editor and writing coach. Each week we discuss a 5,000 word portion of my book: Say It Out Loud: Revealing and Healing the Scars of Sexual Abuse. She comments and makes suggestions on


Living in the Present

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My son posted this quote on Facebook a few weeks ago and I haven’t stopped thinking about it since. How often do we spend time thinking about the past or worrying about the future? We may be physically present and even able to contribute to conversations and be productive, but our presence is clouded by


What it Means to be Held

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Held This is what it means to be held, How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life And you survive This is what it is to be loved And to know that the promise was When everything fell we’d be Held. Sung by Natalie Grant               Lyrics by Christa Wells I rarely write


Don’t Ever Give Up

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In today’s post I’m reporting on some long awaited progress with my book, Say it Out Loud: Revealing and Healing the Scars of Sexual Abuse. There is a message in all of this that I’ll share at the end. For those who are new to my blog here’s a bit of backstory: 2007 – Retired


Silent Heroes

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Silent Heroes We most often hear the word hero when there has been a tragedy or life threatening situation. On Memorial Day we honor the countless heroes in the military who have fought for our country. First responders to 9/11, the Oklahoma City bombing, Newtown Shootings, Boston Marathon etc. are among the heroes we hold


Erin’s Law: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse

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Recently we were visiting my uncle in Florida. His wife asked how the book was coming along, which led to a conversation about my past. My uncle, my father’s brother, explicitly expressed what he would have done to his brother had he known he was abusing me. It sounds like something any relative would say