Getting It Right the First Time

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How often have you stressed about something because you misunderstood what you heard? If you’re upset about something you were told – ask questions – clarify – be sure you understand. Communicating thoughts and feelings is complicated. We don’t always get it right the first time. This was my post on Facebook recently. The thought

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Dissecting the Duggar Family: A Lesson in Child Sexual Abuse

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Slip back in time. You’re sitting in your high school biology class. The boys are waiting excitedly for the teacher to come out from the back room, most of the girls are squeamish and giggling –I’m not touching it! The long awaited–or dreaded–class is here, when each lab table receives a preserved frog to dissect. Today I’m

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Even Wonder Woman Needs a Respite

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Say It Out Loud /Chapter 4: Creating a Respite The word respite is defined as a usually short interval of rest or relief. In the context of this book, a respite is a brief time when your mind is not embedded in thoughts of abuse, treatment, and emotional pain and life resembles normalcy.             The

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Finding the Silver Lining

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Stop It Now! Joe Paterno I never imagined I’d be talking about these two titles in the same post. Stop It Now! is a nonprofit group whose mission is to educate others on preventing child sexual abuse. I’ve referred to them many times over the years as one of the most informative and helpful groups

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Goldilocks Didn’t Settle. Why Would You?

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  A recent set of events has left me thinking about Goldilocks and the Three Bears. You know the fairy tale–Papa Bear’s porridge was too hot, Mama Bear’s was too cold but Baby Bear’s porridge was just right! In search of a church for the winter months, Tim and I found three in our area. The first, an

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Family: Not by Blood Alone

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What makes a family a family? Some would stick with the traditional definition: persons closely related by blood. I refer to that as a biological family. For me family encompasses so much more, sometimes not including the “related by blood”component. The two elements I consider crucial to defining family are; unconditional love and emotional support. Unconditional love is

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Traditions & Triggers: Take Back the Power

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  “TRADITION” Can’t you hear Tevye from Fiddler on the Roof belting out that song? All cultures love tradition. We celebrate birth, death and holidays in traditional ways passing them down from generation to generation. This season is particularly steeped in tradition. Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanuka, Kwanzaa or no holiday at all you are

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The Benefits of Journaling: An Excerpt from Say It Out Loud

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In my last post I shared how I chose the title, Say It Out Loud. Today I’ll go deeper into the book discussing the concept of using strategies for healing. The word strategy commonly refers to military operations. How can a strategy aid in a healing journey? Healing is what we want to achieve. The pain,

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Say It Out Loud: The Back Story

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 Say It Out Loud: Revealing and Healing the Scars of Sexual Abusewas being written long before I ever dreamed of writing a book. It began as a series of journals kept during my six years in therapy for a childhood of sexual abuse. As my healing journey progressed I knew that one day I would

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